Loss, Disappointment and Letting Go
Co-hosts Laurel Holland and Laurel Boivin discuss the themes of loss, disappointment, and letting go in their most recent podcast focusing on inner work. They emphasize the importance of accepting and embracing change, rather than resisting it. Laurel Holland shares her personal experience of learning to let go by first accepting what is - Letting Be. They highlight the distinction between acceptance and resignation, and the necessity of processing emotions to move forward. The conversation also touches on the collective loss experienced during the pandemic and the importance of finding gratitude and wisdom in past losses.
1:45 The cohosts introduce the topic and the difficulty it's presented to handle in the culture
2:45 They discuss how to actually "let go" with grace and ease
4:00 Laurel B talks about how letting go could be used in a specific example to deal with acceptance
6:00 Talking about working through life losses that are not necessarily about death
8:00 Looking at the stories we tell ourselves that contribute to losses and learning to work with them
8:50 No longer resisting emotions to avoid loss and disappointment - taking time for grief as a decision
9:40 Processing emotions pro-actively as a part of the grief process
10:10 Gratitude as a healing step in moving beyond the loss
12:00 Identifying what's underlying the "dream" you want to experience to help you move on and be ready for what might be next to full the desire
13:20 Dealing with disappointment that underlies anger to address loss more directly
15:55 Other episodes that relate to the topic are in the show notes
16:30 Aging as opportunity to process loss well and pro-actively
17:00 Self-definition, change and growth and how they relates to loss and change
18:50 Practicing saying goodbye well as a way to skill-build in processing loss and grief
20:46 Tips for moving through loss and disappointment and its circular nature
22:10 Trauma as a complex topic related to loss and disappointment and needs special attention
22:45 Exercises to help you actively work on your loss and disappointments to move on
25:00 The myth of a timeline for grief
Journaling prompts are suggested to further your exploration.
Links/Books mentioned - On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Live Your Inner Power, The Journal by Laurel Holland, the Beautiful Work Beautiful Life podcast episode on anger was published in 12/23 and entitled Transform Your Anger into Loving Self-Kindness, the Beautiful Work Beautiful Life podcast on grief was published in 11/22 and entitled How to Welcome Grief
The email to send questions to Laurel Boivin is [email protected] and for Laurel Holland - [email protected]
The link to our private Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautifulworkbeautifullife
Host/Cohost/Guest Info
Guiding others to become effective leaders of their own lives, Laurel Holland has been on a journey of awakening and transformation throughout her life. Writing about inner work, Laurel has authored four books, including Crossroads and Love’s 8 Laws. Her books, Live Your Inner Power, the Journal, and Courageous Woman, introduce, share, and explore the eight foundational practices for creating transformation from the inside out. Through her books, programs, and innovative talks, Laurel’s great desire is to lift others up and courageously step into the life they came here to live.
Laurel Boivin, life coach and founder of Flux+Flow Professional Coaching, helps high-performing professionals overcome overwhelm and disillusionment by increasing self-awareness and shifting perspective to improve performance, increase personal contribution, and experience a greater sense of fulfillment and purpose. Laurel began coaching after a 30-year corporate career. A Reiki master and yoga practitioner, collector of sea glass and antiques, she lives in New Hampshire and summers in Maine.
