Letting Go of Control
How comfortable are you with letting go of control?
If you like to be in control, or you find yourself trying to control situations and outcomes, planning every detail, fixing situations or predicting outcomes, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Laurel Boivin discusses the importance of letting go of control in life. She also talks about the need for control leading to frustration, anxiety, and increased risk of burnout and how embracing the flow of life can bring inner peace, reduced stress, enhanced creativity, improved relationships, and spiritual growth.
Laurel shares her personal journey including the unexpected career path that emerged from letting go of control and a recent experience that reminded her control tendencies still exist. She also shares practical steps including becoming aware of control tendencies, practicing mindfulness, setting flexible intentions, embracing uncertainty, trusting life's timing, and seeking support and journaling prompts to help listeners reflect on their relationship with control.
0.00 Laurel welcomes listeners and introduces the topic of the episode.
0:54 Laurel introduces herself and Laurel Holland.
1:48 Laurel shares a few details about upcoming episodes.
3:16 Why letting go of control is uncomfortable yet important.
5:24 What letting go of control is and is not, and why we struggle with it.
7:26 The benefits of letting go of control.
17:02 Tips and strategies to let go of control and surrender into the flow of life.
26:07 Journal prompts to help listeners examine their relationship with control.
30:44 Laurel expresses her hope that listeners deepen their exploration of surrender and their level of trust and freedom that comes with letting go of control.
Journaling prompts are suggested to help explore letting go of control and surrendering to the flow of life.
- What emotions arise when you think about letting go of control, and what do these emotions tell you about your relationship with control and surrender? What do the emotions tell you about your relationship with trust and faith, and maybe even others?
- What would trusting life's timing look like in your current circumstances? What comes up as you reflect on specific situations where you are feeling impatient or frustrated with the timing of life, with the timing of outcomes.
- How has your need for control limited your growth and creativity?
- What support or resources do you need to feel more comfortable surrendering to the flow of life and letting go of control? What support, emotional, physical, spiritual, practical, mental, what support do you have and what do you need to feel safe?
- How can you fully embrace uncertainty as part of life's journey, rather than something to fear?
Links mentioned:
Heart-Centered Leadership with Ericka Lewis, Beautiful Work Beautiful Life Podcast, 11/11/24 https://www.liveyourinnerpower.com/podcasts/beautiful-work-beautiful-life/episodes/2148876353
The email to send questions to Laurel Boivin is [email protected] and for Laurel Holland - [email protected]
The link to our private Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautifulworkbeautifullife
Host/Cohost/Guest Info
Guiding others to become effective leaders of their own lives, Laurel Holland has been on a journey of awakening and transformation throughout her life. Writing about inner work, Laurel has authored four books, including Crossroads and Love’s 8 Laws. Her books, Live Your Inner Power, the Journal, and Courageous Woman, introduce, share, and explore the eight foundational practices for creating transformation from the inside out. Through her books, programs, and innovative talks, Laurel’s great desire is to lift others up and courageously step into the life they came here to live.
Laurel Boivin, life and leadership coach and founder of Flux+Flow Professional Coaching, helps high-performing professionals improve performance, increase personal contribution, and experience a greater sense of fulfillment and purpose. Laurel began coaching after a 30-year corporate career. A Reiki master and yoga practitioner, collector of sea glass and antiques, she lives in New Hampshire and summers in Maine.
