Mid-year Tune-in

It’s July and now half the year has passed. Are you feeling the fleeting quality of time? In 2012, the wisdom-keepers told us it would be the end of time as we know it. I think that's what they were trying to convey. Our sense of time truly has altered.

I’m inviting you to a mid-year tune in. Not as in - have you made your way halfway through your to-do list -  but rather, let's take a few minutes to listen to your heart and soul. 

This video will guide you into:

  • Connecting with your 8th Chakra
  • Attuning to the wisdom of your soul
  • Receive guidance from a deeper place beyond your mind

Grab your journal in case you want to make notes right after the tune in. Of course, I’ll be asking questions!

How to Create What You Want Using Your Mind

What - January is over in a week?

Are you on a roll yet - heading like an arrow toward what you want? 

If not, take inventory right now on this one.

How often during the day do you talk about what you don't like or don't want?

How often do you repeat conversations about things you feel stuck in? 

Your mind initiates the creation of what you want. Take care and use your mind knowing this is true. In this 5-minute video I'm going to give you powerful reasons to monitor what you're thinking and redirect as needed.



I'd love to hear what you want to create in Your Life this year. Leave me a comment and share please. Let me know how this video helped ~
 

Boundaries are Key

You can do this! Take it from a reformed people-pleaser that saying no can become a response you give with love, kindness and clarity. It's also essential to learn how to deal with others who have a hard time taking no for an answer. Building a life you love involves learning to become a skilled boundary setter - with others, with your time, and with your energy.

Share your tips in the comments below for setting boundaries with love and kindness, but also with firmness and clarity - we want to know!

How to Live your Dream

How does a dream actually show up in your life? Usually not the way you thought it would.The universe often delivers way bigger than you imagine. That's if you can truly let go and surrender.

Your job is to dream from your heart. Your work is to get through the doubts and negativity that will show up as you start working toward that dream. Your mission, actually, is to serve your dream.

How does that feel when I say that to you? Is your dream important enough to you for you to surrender, bow to it, and then get to the business of aligning your inner state with that dream? 
 

Remember, your dream is something that comes to you, through you, usually without effort but definitely with attention. You must claim it and commitment.

Align your inner life with your dream or vision, doing the necessary work of releasing all limitations, doubts and judgments so that you can produce that dream through you.

Surrender, commit and serve your dream. If it's important to you then you must align action and your heart and your voice in service to that dream.

What is your dream - what feels like it's in the way of aligning with that reality? Post your comments and let me hold your dream with you.

A Technique for Developing Presence

Use a timer to make this technique even more impactful ~

Use a timer to make this technique even more impactful ~

How do you clear the slates of your mind to become present to what you are encountering – right now? This is the key to being present, to living fully in the now, and to being truly available to those with whom you are spending your time.
 
Are you frustrated, like I am, with people looking at their phones instead of into your eyes?

We live in a world where many of us are distracted by social media, what’s popping up on our smart phones, and the on-going feeling of never getting enough done. Presence– or the lack of - is a real problem for relationships and for communicating effectively.
 
Say hi to “What’s On Top?”! I love this technique for purposefully making yourself available for life in the moment. We used this strategy in group process at our womens centers, and I have carried it through in the groups I lead today.
 
One of my recent program participants used it in our phone conversation today and I thought, “This is a great share for the blog!” Everyone could benefit from this simple but powerful communication and presence technique. 
 
This strategy for cultivating greater presence is called “What’s On Top?”
 
Here’s how it works. Before you actually get into the agenda of what you came together for, each person takes a turn to share what’s on their minds. Think of it as a quick mind dump. In groups, we use a timer so that it’s a structured, intentional way to release what’s occupying your mind. And then, focus on what’s in front of you. With practice, you’ll find it easy to let go of the distractions and be more focused in the moment.
 
In a world where we are being bombarded with more information and “stuff” vying for our attention, you can intentionally create ways to re-focus. Developing strategies to become present to those you love and with whom you work gives you more credibility, deepens your influence, and allows you to experience the intimacy you naturally crave and often miss out on. 

Let's give what we want to receive. Are you willing to invite others into more fulfilling commutations and connections with you, to create them together? 
 
Try this technique, share it with your peeps and enjoy the gift of really listening and truly feeling heard!
 
Feel free to forward this blog to a friend or significant other with whom you want to try out “What’s on Top”. Together you can experience deeper and more meaningful, effective and more productive, conversations and connections.
 

Women, Business, Mothering, Healing and More!

I had a rich and honest conversation with Amber Lilyestrom on her podcast series, The Soul-Fueled CEO about women, healing, business ~ and so much more! 

 A few highlights include ~

  • How to approach releasing your fear of being seen and overcoming the conflict that holds you back
  • How to balance being a mother and business owner in a way that feels right for you
  • What you can do to deal with your attraction to “shiny objects”
  • How to manifest what you really want by looking at what you’re manifesting now
  • How to surrender to your truth by acknowledging what you’ve created

Amber coaches women into going bigger and bolder in their businesses all the while remaining authentically true to themselves. That's powerful stuff. This woman is a woman to watch - she's a force of nature and powerful at manifesting the life she deeply desires.

I loved our conversation and think you will too!


Stay tuned for what's coming next at Live Your Inner Power! Sitting with yourself is one of the most powerful paths to creating the life you most deeply want. We're getting ready to guide you through mastering that skill!
 

How to Stop Pretzeling and Live Authentically

What have you done this week that is in complete alignment with who you truly are and what you deeply want?

Rachel and I had a great talk on Monday’s FB Live at Noon about “pretzeling” versus living authentically. It brought on some big Yeses from our community. Women resonate with the reality of twisting and turning inside and out to please, avoid and accomplish.

Do you get a creepy crawly feeling when someone you love is sharing themselves and you disagree with what they are saying, or you want something different, or you feel hurt by it inadvertently?

How about when you look at your to-do list and want to head back to bed?

Or do you know the feeling when you are in a conversation and you want to say what you think, what you feel, what you want and instead you clam up, shut down, or push aside that truth because it’s too scary, intimidating or anxiety-provoking to just day it?

Zap! That’s how pretzeling happens! Instead of courageously speaking up, you become a pretzel, modifying, withholding, or sidestepping. Along with all that comes emotions - maybe hurt. Maybe anger. Maybe guilt. Or all of them in bits. And then the inner pretzeling starts as you accommodate that inner energy.

And let’s face it, that’s just not healthy for your digestion, your state-of-mind, or your heart. And inner peace, forget it.

How can you stop pretzeling? As we suggested in the FB Live, start by tuning into yourself and recognizing what your doing. Pretzeling does not feel good – it’s downright uncomfortable in your body. Then tell yourself the truth. Say it in your head, write it in your journal, and say it out loud when you’re alone. Practice the truth.

The next best steps are finding a safe place to share – a relationship or circle where you can say it all and not be judged. A place where you can be you and be loved. In that circle you build your courage and confidence. With more of the big C’s – courage and confidence – you start saying and claiming your truth in the more challenging spaces and relationships.

Building a life that’s in alignment with your truth and your wants happens one conversation and one decision at a time. Living authentically makes getting up each day an adventure.

Let's keep the pretzeling on the yoga mat where it belongs :)

 

What’s your favorite non-yoga pretzel move that you’re ready to stop so you can live more authentically?

Your Competitive Nature and Your Soul

First, let’s get the truth out of the way – we are all competitive.

Competitive – it’s a human quality. So it exists in all of us in some way. We all have all the qualities - in some form, somewhere within.

The question to pose is – how is my competitive nature showing up – what’s its focus?

When you don’t ask the question, bring the topic into the light, it lurks in the shadows where you might want to disown this part of you. When you do this, the competitive you shows up in ways you don’t feel good about or want to claim, so disclaiming it may feel like the best course.

Disclaiming it can look like this - 

Jealousy – “She’s better than me”

Mean thoughts – “She thinks she’s so great”

Self-loathing – “I could never do that”

How do you work with your competitive self so she can serve you and others and not wreak havoc and unpleasantness around you? Invite it in, and have a conversation with yourself.

Ask –

What haven’t I grown in myself fully?

What still awaits expression?

What’s she doing that I want to be doing but am not?

How is my life not fulfilling in ways that I deeply desire?

What lies dormant in me that I see in her?

What’s getting uncomfortable not to express?

Your competitive self can get driven by your ego –

Look at me!

I’m so grand

I’m the best

Or by your soul –

What’s next for me?

I am committed to fully expressing myself

What’s in my heart and soul is here to be shared

What am I waiting for? 

What’s the best thing about bringing your competitive nature out to be seen and guided by your soul?

You love all women, all people. You want everyone to shine brightly and contribute greatly and create more goodness in the world. You know their great is different – not better - not less – than your great.

And that’s a truth you can relax into, let go and allow in your life. Competition isn’t bad, it just needs to be led by your soul, not your ego.

How do you know when you're living authentically?

How do you know when you're living authentically? And why does it matter?

It matters because when you live inauthentically you pay a price. Sometimes we don't even realize what those costs are. Those costs can be big -

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Always questioning yourself
  • Seeing the green grass on the "other" side 
  • Addiction


Other times the costs are less dramatic but still unfortunate -

  • Worry about the future
  • Guilt about the past
  • Feeling uneasy in your body
  • Feeling detached from your body
  • Overall boredom


When you live authentically, you look around your life and feel at ease - and hopeful. Even when you are in the throes of change and it's uncomfortable to be in the turmoil, your body will register that - this is okay. This is part of my life process right now.

You just need to keep moving through - and breathe.

One of the quickest ways to step into living more authentically is to gently own where you are feeling and living inauthentically. Begin the process of checking in with yourself in all areas, in all decisions. Does this feel right and true? Do I feel like I am in integrity? Do I feel good about who I am being right now?

A poppy is only a poppy :)



During my training on the Shamanic path I learned how to face my inauthenticity with love and grace. Questions I kept in the forefront were -


Where was I not speaking the complete truth?

When was I not willing to share my feelings?

How did I make choices that didn't align with my heart and inner truth?

Who was helping me be more authentic, who was hindering me?


No why's - they come later when you can see life in retrospect. The answers to the why's arise naturally when you've grown and time has passed.

Authentic living is being in the light. The light that let's you know - you can do this. 

Managing life in your head is troublesome. We know now that it's the stress producing path. And it's the path to chronic self-doubt. Sure, we need to think, but mental direction needs to come from an inspired place.

Instead of staying in the mental chatter of your mind, tune in to how your body feels when you make decisions. Learn your inner wisdom and how it speaks THROUGH you. Get friendly and well-acquainted with your signals, your pushes, pulls and pulses that know what's right, wrong, what's best, and what's off course for you. Learn the little details of those pulses that signal honesty, register truth, and the fear that accompanies living vulnerably.

The fear dissipates as you grow authenticity muscles and develop an inner wisdom practice. The truth and comfort remain. 

Living your authentic life is the pulse that's beating through your heart, calling you to your best life. 

Will you answer the call?

I'm here to support you in your authentic life. 

How are you feeling about your journey to authenticity? Leave a comment below and make authenticity a topic on the table!

Do you know anyone who wants to feel more authentic, more at peace in her skin? Share this message with her and spread the healing.

The practice you must master to live your best life

To what do I attribute my great life? If I had to choose one thing it would be this ~

Leave a comment below ~ what is stopping you from sitting with yourself regularly?