A beginner’s guide to manifesting the life you want

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There’s a lot of language out there in the personal development space these days about “manifesting” and the “law of attraction”. Language about putting what you want out into the Universe and then it comes back to you. All of that might sound a little involved but really, it’s pretty simple stuff. Let’s dive into how you can start this process in your own life today.

  1. Take an inventory of what’s working in your life and what’s not working. Start with an assessment of your core values. How are you living in alignment with what you value and where are areas you aren’t living in alignment with those values?

  2. Get quiet and ask yourself how you want to feel. What do you want your primary emotion to be that you aren’t feeling right now? What brings that emotion out of you? (ex. I want to feel joy. Then ask, what decisions in your days bring you joy?)

  3. DREAM! What do you want your life to look like? Write out your perfect day. What activities do you do? How do you spend your time? What do you feel? What do you taste/smell? Dive into all those sweet, juicy details.

  4. Put it out there and release. Create a vision board for your life. Share your dream with a trusted friend. Someone that allows you to wholeheartedly let yourself be seen and heard.

  5. And then, let go.

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Here’s the deal.

In order for the universe (or whatever higher power you believe in) to hear you, then you must be in alignment with what you value and want in your life. That’s where that sweet little inventory at the beginning comes in.

Boundaries are also key here for coming into alignment. Creating boundaries and habits that support the life experience you want to be having is the initial step to becoming aligned, not only with yourself, but with your higher power.

When we are in alignment, we are vibrating at a higher frequency. Our energy is lighter and we feel good. If I lost you there, think about it this way. When you get rid of a burden, a weight has been lifted (aka you feel lighter). Or when you’re sad, you literally feel heavy and weighed down. When you’re happy, it’s like you could skip down the sidewalk or jump right up and touch the sky because of that joy. The simplicity is this -

Positive emotions are light and negative emotions are heavy. We want more of the positive ones so we experience that high vibration, light-weight energy.

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Allowing yourself to express your dream and have it be received by the great beyond is so important. Don’t get bogged down with asking for it all the time or using your energy every moment to think about what it is you want. That’s not useful or effective.

After you’ve put it out there, you’ve gotta let go and simply live in alignment. Michael Beckwith explains it like this - if you keep asking for it then you’re only sending messages that you don’t have it. He also says it’s like a wishing well, you make the wish and then you release it.

“It’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it while letting go of how it comes to pass. Your job is not to figure out how it’s gonna happen for you but to open the door in your head and when the door opens in real life just walk through it. And don’t worry if you miss your cue, they’ll keep opening.”

- Jim Carey

What do you think? Not too hard right? Follow those simple steps and you’ll be on your way to the life of your dreams. And if you want even more, go listen to Michael Beckwith and Oprah over at SuperSoul Conversations - wowwweeeee that’ll really put things into perspective.

If you have any questions about this or want more guidance, comment below! I’m here to help!

Love & Light,
Cass

The Gift of Being Seen

 

How good does it feel when you are really seen? When you are listened to intently? When someone really gets you? 

Do you have this in your life? Maybe with a best friend ~ or just maybe you're fortunate enough to have this experience in your marriage, or with a sister, a mother.

The feeling is like ~

coming home

the warmest blanket on the coziest couch

a breath of spring air just after winter

a belly laugh after having felt down for a while

sinking into a comfy chair with a book you don't want to put down

the feeling is fulfilling, it's soothing, it's uplifting, it's warm and it's love-drenched.

I am wishing this for you today.

My heart is brimming with the feeling after having worked with Rachel Camfield of Carriage House Collaborations. 

Yes, Rachel and I were friends before she gave my website a make-over. And yes, she was in my first circle of women to become Live Your Inner Power graduates in 2015. And yes, we are co-leading a Mastermind group together. So, yes ~ she gets me. And yet, I wouldn't have had the opportunity to work with her if she hadn't courageously set up her own business.

Rachel intuitively listened, and then trusted her instinct about how to deliver a product that was what I really wanted. Thank you are small words for work this big.

Part of my work with Rachel includes a photo shoot. For any woman who has had self-esteem issues (moi included :)), a photo shoot can be part of our healing journey. Stay tuned for Phase 2 this May! It's my birthday present to me.

Are you into self-care, do you treat yourself as the most special person you know?

As a woman, taking self-care to the next level - where it's a work of art and a joy of life, not the tedious next thing to get done, translates to opening the doors to endless possibilities.

 

I'd love to support you in this life changing habit.  Join my list and receive monthly support so you too can make your self-care a matter you enjoy

Surrender and you will receive – really? That’s a surprise ☺

What are your big stressors?

Time - it's the top complaint I hear from stressed women! Relationships - women orient their lives to relationships, of course this is big stuff for us! Love and the desire for good loving - who doesn't want this if we don't have it? 

It's time to surrender...

Do you connect the word surrender with loss? I did for a long time. I have learned, gratefully, that surrender means gain in so many ways. Let me give you some examples ~

When I surrender to my need for self-care, I replenish my energy to give easily and freely.

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If you are struggling with anxiety, stress or fatigue, my guess is that mastering the art of surrendering could become your great healing agent.

If you looking for relief from anxiety, stress or fatigue, I am here to help you live your inner power and find that relief.  

What is your great stress? Did you like this blog? I'd love to hear from you :)

Self-care Surrender

One of my deepest lessons in this life has been to stop people-pleasing. It still can catch me up if I am not on my game.

People pleasing comes from a place of wanting to help others. It's not a bad thing, it just doesn't necessarily accomplish the intention. When we see adults distressed and we are young, we mistakenly believe we can make life better for them by trying to please them. Wanting to please can be a fine line between socially acceptable behavior and squelching your true self. If we start this pattern when young, we get caught in cycles and patterns where we don't even know who we are. We keep modifying our behavior to avoid conflict and create less stressful situations. 

Self-care was the remedy for the people-pleasing habit in my life. I needed to get to know myself and honor who I am, understand what my needs are, and to tune in to my inner most desires.

I realized as I reflected on my life (during self-care time) that I never rescued anyone or made anyone happy though my people-pleasing. Sure, I may have made life quieter in some respects, but I didn't make the "bad stuff" go away for anyone. Finally I know that everyone has to do that for themselves. And when they do, they are empowered and uplifted. 

 

As I honor my needs, follow my wants and trust my intuition, I slowly built a life of all things good. Self-care was the path that led to serving the world naturally and with heartfelt passion. Self-care equates to feeling full every day so that I can give more, easily, and with joy.

Self-care is not optional when you decide to live a fulfilling life.

What self-care is your being asking for? Are the messages coming through illness or imbalance? Through crisis of relationship or work? Sometimes this is how life gets our attention. I'd love to know what you need ~

How can your Ego help You? by Pixie Hamilton

I have always thought of the Ego in a somewhat negative light. I saw it separate and as the part of me that “steals” from my Divinity and my “truth.” I have been taught in church (including the New Thought church I currently attend) that my Ego is bad – that it Edges God Out, so to speak. Over the past 15 years I have looked at my Ego through “black and white” eyes; my Ego was the “Fear” in my life, whereas my Divine Source was the “Love.” My Ego was “evil,” and the Divine Source in me was “good.” My latest breakthrough, or “AHA” moment, was that I have been giving Ego a really bad rap. I need my Ego. I especially need my Ego as defined by Webster and other dictionaries: “Ego is the mediator in the material world around me; it is that part of me that is thinking, feeling, and willing; it is that part of me that experiences and reacts to the outside world and mediates the demands of the social and physical environment; it is that part of me that controls my thoughts and behavior; that part of me that facilitates me with the external world and reality.”

What if my Ego was also my mediator between me and my Divinity?

What if my Ego wasn’t all bad? What if my Ego was my friend and my ally?

For 15 years, I essentially (and unknowingly) gave it up for Divinity. Sounds strange, but I gave up my Ego to save my soul.

So, at 57 years old I began to ask what does my Ego look like? What does its voice sound like? Is it manic? Sinister? Kind? Smart? What would it (essentially me?) look like if it were illuminated?

I threw my “black and white” glasses down and began to look at myself with clearer eyes, new clarity and awareness. I stared and stared at the mirror. Literally. I looked hard and wondered who it was. Blankly the image stared back. I stared harder, and longer, and more longingly to embrace a new view of this person. It wasn’t long that I realized a lot about my Ego. Sure, it can be negative. I see why it gets a bad rap. The Ego gives me the urge to inflate, to assert, dominate, interrupt, compare, manipulate, insult, lack curiosity...I could go on. But, after observing “me” with this new clarity, I see that my Ego—my thoughts, my mediation of the world around me—is also very kind, caring, energetic, playful, smart, inquisitive, listening, persistent, hard-working…and, yes, I could go on.

Why would I give that up? Why not embrace and own that part of me and my personality and my behavior? Why not simply become more aware of when my Ego runs amok and those times that my Ego behaves out of alignment with my Source? Why not just sit with a feeling of simplicity and the grace of being myself in those times? Why not watch and “simply be?” I can choose that deliberately– after all, the Ego is my thoughts and mind. If I want to, I can refuse, for example, to make that phone call and gossip. Or refuse to denigrate myself. I can just let it go. My Ego is my vehicle to choose, thoughtfully and deliberately.

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I now realize that avoiding my Ego; hating my Ego; pushing back my Ego; creating that separation over these last years has not allowed me to fully accept “me.” In fact, I am now convinced that it is only up to the last few weeks that I truly accepted and embraced the full ME!

I look again in the mirror, fully without hesitation or questioning. I see the Divine and the Ego. I see the good they can do together. I haven’t fully learned how to tap into “me” yet – my full Ego – but I am now willing to accept and own who I am. I acknowledge the potential raw power. I know that I am unique. I know that I am exceptional. I know that both my Ego and my Divinity are necessary for my wholeness. I need my Ego—my personality, self-image, my projection, my thoughts, my behavior, and my gifts—to express my Divinity, the highest expression of who I am.

Getting to know the Divine and all its universal power, love, abundance, and grace over the last 15 years has saved me. But now I step further into enlightenment. I realize I was only halfway there.

Today and every day forward, I now fully accept my Ego (me) as my critical tool to shine. It is there for realizing that everything that happens is for the expression of the Divine coming through me. What a wonderful thought to think that my Divine Source is using my Ego to serve its (my) glorification. How wonderful to think that when my Ego is in alignment, it is my trusted ally with which I can move forward in this material world – completely, fully, and with Divine love and grace.

What do you want for the holiday season?

Your desire is the key to creating a life that feels good. To sit with your Self, and allow your desires in their fullness, it's important to be still. And in that stillness you travel beyond the layers of conditioning about how the holiday season is to be celebrated, and into the space where your heart can tell you what will fulfill and inspire you. WaitingForSomeoneElse

The most challenging part of all this is the being still with Self. Most of us, particularly women, have been "trained" to shop, wrap, bake, cook, entertain, prepare, organize and trim for the season. All of this takes precious time and energy. After all this is done, who has time to be still with Self, awake and calm enough to hear the pulses from within?

I do. I make time. My holiday season has become a different experience inside me because I have taken the time. I have listened and I have honored my Self. You can too.

With practice I am getting good at creating new rituals and ways to celebrate this time of year. Last night I held my annual solstice event. I sat in a circle of like-minded women, who lovingly held space for me and 17 other women to share what they want, to be still with our Selves for a couple of hours and to acknowledge a part of our inner worlds that is critical for making a fulfilling life.

I love this connection and glowing experience of the season. It's one of my favorite parts of the holiday time. And I enjoy it because I have taken the time. I have listened and I have honored my Self.

What can you do to begin to bring more joy into this season? Give yourself what you want. TAKE some time ~ no will give it to you ~ and listen, be still and honor what you really want. Others lives will be touched beneficially by this process. It may feel like it's just about you, but you help others to do the same. We can liberate one another from the trappings of a season that may feel like it's about consumption and exhaustion.

Let's create the holidays we deeply desire.

Ready for A New Story? by Pixie Hamilton

We all have “our stories.” We walk through life, emotionally and mentally responding to what happened today, yesterday, and every day in our past. Our stories are so seemingly unique, personal, intense, defining, and all-encompassing.

Some of us are alcoholics. Some are recovering. Some don’t drink.

Some feel overweight. Some feel absolutely fabulous.

Some of us are gay. Some of us are heterosexual. Some of us may not know.

Some have been abused or raped; some feel unloved; while some have known nothing but glorious harmonious relationships.

Some of us are white, some are of color.

I could go on.

Are we really that different?

Not really. Our “stories” and earthly experiences today, in the past, and what’s to come, simply do not define “who we really are.”

What does matter is that we each are woven into this sacred and wonderful fabric of life, love, and Oneness.

Our stories may not allow us to feel very good, worthy, or loved, but we ARE loved, unconditionally because a divine, pure, and unadulterated love resides in a sacred space deep within each of us.

Imagine that. We all have a part of us – a sacred space - that is untouched and unscathed by any hurt, wound, or rejection…a loving space that is totally separate from our earthly experience or “story.”

tuneoutnoiseI go into that space.

I breathe…deeply. I release my breath.

I inhale again. And release.

My breath is all that matters.

With my breaths I release my story. I release my fears, my anger, my hurt, and all mental and emotional noise and chatter that invades this space.

With each breath, I have no ego. I choose my divine self instead.

I am now deep in that space where I feel free, at ease, surrounded and comforted by warm light. I am not alone. I am strong. I am protected. I am creative. I am happy. And, I am at peace because I know that I am loved.

My mind is blank. My story fades. It’s gone.

Silence and stillness surround me. The feeling is magnificent. I remember now, and recognize “who I really am.”

I remember – yes, I remember - that I am, first and foremost, a divine spark of absolute Goodness and that love is available to me every moment of every day.

Prosperity for All– Not just the lucky, strong, or hard-working by Pixie Hamilton

“You are the owner of all that you perceive. But you can’t perceive apart from your vibration. Feel your way, little-by-little, into a greater sense of abundance by looking for the treasures that the Universe is offering you on a day-to-day basis.” ~ Esther Hicks

Prosperity is derived from Old French “prosperite” and from Latin “prosperitas” and translates to “doing well.”

To me, “doing well” is NOT about money or material wealth.

Prosperity goes much deeper. I can’t see prosperity. I can’t touch it. But I know it. It stems from a deep contentment in life and my highest purpose.

Prosperity is in every single moment, constantly adding value to my life and those around me. The value manifests in terms of serving, forgiving, accepting, creating opportunities, providing joyful and purposeful experiences, promoting peace and love, creating harmonious relationships, and finding pleasure in everything I do.

Prosperity is constantly coming towards me – an idea, a thought, an inspiration, a hug, the right word, a smile, relationships, wellness, expansion, ease, love, feeling capable, watching a sunset, listening to the songs of birds or a train, and enjoying Nature’s vibrant colors and sounds.

I feel prosperous when I allow this constant flow of universal and abundant prosperity; when I call attention to its presence in every moment; and when I allow the higher vibration to punctuate my life and add value to others.

I have no doubt that recognizing prosperity in all things and becoming aware of life’s small pleasures leads me to even bigger pleasures and more prosperity.

I also have no doubt that prosperity in terms of money follows these universal gifts. Manifestation of material wealth and financial abundance follow the giving of oneself and the creating of value, small and large. It follows a life committed to giving and receiving.

So….go love. And love some more!

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Create a “feel good” experience. Sing, smile, laugh, and do something fun. Embrace joy. And embrace joy some more!

Pay attention to the small and large blessings coming your way. Be grateful for the smiles, touches, hugs, music, and the stillness. And be grateful some more!

Create a larger space for the abundance coming your way by releasing any resistance and blocks due to grudges, fears, and negative thoughts. Forgive. And forgive some more!

Celebrate life’s infinite abundance in your life and in lives of those around you. And celebrate some more!

Giving and receiving are universal gifts of prosperity. Feel them and allow them into your life some more!!!!!!

 

Welcome to our New Contributors

As the founder of Focusing Inward, I am so proud to be headlining new voices. Big welcome to Rachel Camfield and Pixie Hamilton! Pixie Hamilton's post last week, Feeling the Ease was a fantastic list of affirmations and an exquisite reflection on being fully home in Self. Pixie is not new to Focusing Inward, she has shared her writing before. Pixie inspires us with her post meditation flow. I am so happy her words are here to support us in our journey inward.

This week Rachel Camfield debuted with her first posting entitled "Anybody Home?". Rachel has a unique, beautiful and fun way of expressing herself. Her growing ability to be still with herself and get into her flow are fully expressed in her writing. Her gems of truth are embedded throughout her fresh voice.

Pixie and Rachel will be featured regularly as time goes on. Both of these women give great voice to the beauty and riches that one experiences through focusing inward. I hope they inspire you to look within, to make a commitment to your Self and grow the joy that life offers. You can read more about them our Our Contributing Writers page.

Both of this month's posting reveal the truth that you can find comfort, guidance and your security by engaging a strong connection with your inner world. You are your most beautiful home and your best guide. Please join us in this wisdom.

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Feeling the Ease by Pixie Hamilton

I love the ease of my world.I love knowing what I know about vibration and energy. I love my vibrational nature. I love knowing that this life is all about frequency and energy and that I can focus on and manifest a feeling of well-being. I love setting this time aside to find this feeling of ease. I love starting my day this way. I know that my ease comes with the power of my focus and intention and allowing. I feel momentum building in this ease. I feel it fully. I own it. I so adore this non-physical energy that is flowing with perfection and ease, in and through me. I love knowing that I can experience this atmosphere of well-being and ease to the degree I allow it. I love knowing the Laws of the Universe and knowing that they are working in my life right now for my highest good. I love knowing that I can stay in this feeling of ease and well-being for as long as I want. I love knowing that Source is surrounding me and everyone in my life and that everyone I know and love is surrounded by this ease. I am in a place of utter well-being, and I shine my well-being through my focus in the direction of things that matter to me.

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Source Has My Back I know I will be guided to perfect thoughts and behaviors at the perfect time. Meanwhile I sit in this ease and eagerness and appreciation for all that is to come. I feel so happy that I leave “conditions” and outcomes out of my ease. I allow myself to feel the eagerness about things. Not an eagerness that inspires me to action right now but one that inspires optimism and renewal within me. I know that the timing may not be now. I am patient. I am comfortable in this space, in focusing and aligning the Universal energy to flow to me and through me. As I bask in this ease, I am more and more capable of not putting conditions in my way to block the energy flow. I am excited, but I will not run ahead of it. I will let the ease guide me. I won’t act yet. I will sit in this “knowing” a little longer. I will allow myself only to feel the ease. My desire will ultimately inspire the right action at the right time. I am setting the tone. I am focusing on alignment. I am asking the questions. I am readying myself. And then I will watch the results manifest – revealing the place that I have found – at the perfect time. I am eager to watch the greater expansion. Meanwhile I watch what is going on right now. Right here around me. I am watching the energy moving around me now, as I create and activate my vibrational alignment. I know that I can and will influence anything I desire. I am so appreciative of this life experience and my focus on things that are important to me. I can feel the allowing. Source energy is flowing to me and through me. This is the “work” I am to do. I reside here right now. There is no impatience on my part. I am not ready. I will never be called to do something that I am not ready to do. I will not push myself to act when I am not ready to do it – because that is where a vibrational misalignment comes. Source has my back. My work is to hold this place. I will not try to take the role of Source. Instead I wait and serve as the vibrational heart of the movement. I own this vibrational place and allow Source energy to do its thing. I know that I am in the right place at the right time and loving what I am supposed to do and what this life provides for me. And all is well.