Who are you really? And how is your life demonstrating this?

Who are you deep inside? Do you know? Lately, I am reminded that life flows from this connection… so the flow you’re in will reflect how well you honor * the essential you*.

How do connect with the essential you - and then live into that true Self? First you must take time with you and get rigorously honest. I've been in that "space" lately and deepening my truth as I continue to learn and grow.

I've realized that I don’t want to build a "big" business that requires full-time attention. There have been points when I thought I did. I have big dreams and I love feeling successful. And I also want other things that are decidedly, for me, more important.

Coming to terms with wanting a thriving business that is the right size For Me - has been a huge breath of fresh air.

I Love My Clients. We do deep work. We have amazing transformational experiences together. This is what matters to me. The intimacy, the truth, the revelations.

I Love my Husband, my Family. At the heart of my being I know that I am a central figure for my family. My husband relies on me in important ways. I want to offer beautiful energy to our marriage and our business life together, to our deep connection, to Us. I want to be a mother/grandmother who has time for relaxed conversations, for offering my full self with each family member - I love them dearly and want them to know it. *Same with my dearest friendships.* In order to be that woman, I have to have the boundaries placed very delicately, very carefully, so I show up the as the woman I love being - the real Me.

Photo courtesy of Kira Marie Cline - thank you! 

Photo courtesy of Kira Marie Cline - thank you! 

Years ago I began a love affair with my soul.We meet every morning. I listen. I speak. I shed tears of gratitude… I feel the fullness of my life. I revel in the wisdom that brought me down this path of fulfillment and love. I would not abandon my time with this Higher Me for anything.

As you read this, are you thinking about your own life? Do you have the time you want for relationships as well as all the other things you want to experience? Are you feeling good about your priorities? 

We must take care as the rise of the feminine ensues all around us. We could inadvertently create new scenarios that aren't truly what we want but have been conditioned to believe we want. The only way to overcome this is "Know Thyself".  Spend time with Self. Tune in consistently inwardly.

What boundaries must you be cautious of so that you don’t overload your energy and find yourself in a trap of your own making? I'd love to know. 

Practicing acceptance and making way for self-love

Have you ever learned something about yourself that felt soul-shifting?

And once you learned that thing it cleared the way for so much goodness? Welp, that happened to me this past month - hard and fast.

I’ve been focusing on practicing acceptance in the Live Your Inner Power (LYIP) program and wow has it created some huge shifts. Accepting in this sense is all about acknowledging where you’re at...

In life
In work
In relationships
In your body
What’s past
What’s present
All of it

...and accepting it for what it is without resisting or trying to change it. When you’re able to take a step back and become a witness to your life it’s totally groundbreaking.

My goal for this program is to shed my fear of judgement and I’m already well on my way after learning this practice. As I was learning and working my way through the journaling questions for this practice it became clear that I’ve been judging myself all along - it hit me like a freight train. For doing too much, for not doing enough, not being productive enough, wanting to do this or that differently, wishing for more of this, wanting more of that.

As women we are always judging ourselves, our bodies, our friends, our lives, every little facet of it and when I was able to step back and see that my fear of judgement came from how I’ve been talking to and treating myself...whoa, that was big.


After I uncovered this, I was able to consciously try to move past it towards what I truly desire which is more authenticity and vulnerability, allowing myself to be seen in all my beauty and imperfections by others. Whenever I felt myself resisting or assessing how things were in a good or bad way I would stop and simply accept them as the reality of what’s happening in my life. That’s all. No judging, no resisting, just being.

I found that after I started doing this I had more energy and more clarity about my direction and how I wanted to spend my time. I’m able to arrive in each moment more fully and see the abundance that I already experience in my life with the knowledge that I created that. I’m able to love myself even more now because I’m not resisting or judging anything that happens but instead recognizing right where I’m at and how amazing that truly is.

What Defines You?

My journey from defining myself as a sad person to a creative and natural-born leader has been an amazing adventure.

The experience hasn't been easy and it hasn't been fast. Thankfully so, because I would have missed so much if it had been a condensed, abbreviated version of finding the real ME within, and then taking her out to play in the world! The longer, slower, more conscientious journey has offered miraculous gifts. I treasure these gifts daily.

Perhaps this is why I love my work so much. I love being a witness and a guide as others willingly sit with their difficult emotional states, their confusion and any resistance. I love holding sacred space between us, where it is safe to explore the sometimes painful truths of life. I love to be the strong, consistent voice of love, echoing again and again, it's okay, it's all okay. You are so much more than this confusion, this pain or this struggle. Believe me, I know. I know because I discovered that I am so much more than the sadness that defined me. Stay with me. You will discover more too.

The gifts I treasure today, bestowed from within, as I journeyed deeply into my inner world and found more than sadness include:

* A sadness that dissolved into compassionate understanding of the pain of humanity

* An inner strength that was carved from the emotional fortitude of bearing a profound sadness about life

* An infinite hopefulness in the face of any discouragement as I learned to commit to Self

Exquisite relationships that resonate the truth of mutual interest and respect

* Meaningful work that calls on me to serve in ways that cause me to feel profoundly fulfilled

* An inner peace that I connect with regularly, reminding me that I am infinitely more than any passing challenge

* Creative energy that continues to surge in new and exciting ways as I act on my inner guidance.

What is defining me these days is compassionate understanding, emotional fortitude, infinite hopefulness, Exquisite relationships, Meaningful work, inner peace, and Creative energy.

That's quite a shift after 30 something years of letting myself be defined by my sadness. Join me. Discover your self-definition that brings joy to your life every day. Don't wait another moment.