Today' message encourages you to end one of the most draining habits that can sabotage any forward movement in your life. Guilt will drag you down, pull you back and cause you to feel heavy all over. (Is your weight an issue for you?) Instead, you CAN make peace with your past and claim a joyful today. But first you must end the guilt habit.
I am purposefully closing out the month of March with a video on the topic of the masterful habit of Purposefully Opening and Closing Your Experiences. The month got away from me so quickly! My relationship with time is altering as I live more fully in joy day-to-day. My intention has been to bring you weekly videos but as my life expands and I must choose more carefully about how I spend my time, I find it is more realistic to post between 2 and 4 videos a month. This is an attainable goal. So be it! I am practicing what I teach. Set intention, reflect, adjust, notice, gather wisdom and celebrate! I invite you to do so too! Check out today's video.
That's right, stand up now. Literally stand up and behind yourself in your decisions. Be clear about your decision and then You stand up for You. This is a practice that helps you build a storehouse of self-esteem, that sought-after quality that causes you to feel GOOD inside. The formula is fairly simple - act in alignment with your authentic value system, on that which is near and dear to your heart - and you will esteem (highly value) You. Here are three steps to take to start building your storehouse of self-esteem today. When you stand up for yourself, your message is clear - I believe in me.
Positive thinking is a subject near and dear to my heart. Along with deep breathing and quiet sitting, it is one of the single most powerful tools I carry with me everywhere I go. After writing a great deal about my own life and personal experiences I thought it was time to take a bit of a detour and share a couple of techniques that I have successfully used both professionally and personally to change my life.
Positive thinking is perhaps the most important step in creating the life you want and for changing the old patterns. It becomes the fuel for getting excited about a new and fulfilling way of living.
Whether you want to become more confident, develop a new skill, be rid of excess weight (emotionally and/or physically) and/or all of the above; thinking positively sets you firmly on your way. Belief in your positive thoughts plays a big part in reaching your goal.
To get started with this process (and this is probably the most important part) you need to get yourself thinking about what you DO want to accomplish, and let go of what you don’t want. The reason for this critical first step is: what you choose to focus your mind on will be what you move toward. This can’t be stressed enough, so it bears repeating. What you choose to focus your mind on will be what your mind moves you toward. This often happens without you consciously realizing it. We can take charge right now.
What is it that you want to do? Or, what change do you want to make in your life? Perhaps there is something you would like to do differently? Choose one thing. If you are having a hard time maybe you need an example of how to focus on the positive and let go of what you don’t want.
How about this? You want to shed some pounds and you know that not going to the fridge and cupboards would help decrease snacking when you are not hungry. Instead of thinking about not visiting those two spots concentrate on what you want to do instead - read a good book or magazine, pick up a craft or project, call a friend, or go for a walk.
If you are having any trouble with this shift, it’s okay. Maybe you are like many people who find themselves thinking more about what they want to stop doing, rather than what they really do want in their life. If you are doing that, or are thinking negatively in any way, stop right now and sweep those thoughts away. That’s right - imagine a big, huge, push broom. Take that broom and sweep away any thoughts about the things you don’t want. And while you’re at it sweep away any thoughts that say, “I can’t.”
Now think about the thing you DO want to be doing. Go ahead, pick one really positive item you would like to change or bring into your life. Remember that this must be about you - not anyone else. You can’t get Aunt Sue to stop smoking by visualizing it, or your teenage kids to clean up after themselves either.
This technique of positive mental imagery is for you to use on you.
Now you are ready to let yourself begin imagining that you are doing or changing what ever you’ve chosen. That’s right, in your imagination, see yourself, feel yourself and even hear yourself making whatever change you’ve chosen to bring into your life. This is your positive imagery! From now on your goal is going to be to get yourself to replay this positive imagery as often as you can throughout the day. It is especially important to get it in place ahead of time so that you are ready if any negative or self-defeating, “I can’t do it” thoughts rear their ugly heads. Your positive imagery will combat the negative thoughts.
Another helpful practice is to choose a simple mental phrase that represents your faith in yourself, like; “I can do it,” “I am accomplishing this goal,” or “I am worth the effort and have the ability to stick with it.” If these phrases don’t work for you, create your own. Just remember to be positive! Combine your positive mental imagery with your simple positive phrase and you are off and running. Try it and find the change happening in your life … almost magically.
YES YOU CAN!!!
I like to think of the year as a clear, clean slate, like the sky just beyond these tree branches in this gorgeous photo. You will create a year of experiences that will tell a story of your life for the next 365 days. What do you want that story to tell? Deciding consciously alters your story significantly. First recommendation and power habit of the year - decide consciously.
Giving thought to what you want your story to tell begins moving your creative energy towards what you want. It causes you to set clear intentions for the next period of time. It helps you flush out self-limiting and useless patterns and habits that create your life today.
That is my intention for the year to come. The focus is on supporting you to further become the powerful creator of your life by sharing powerful life habits with you. You can craft the life of your choosing - if you become a conscious and intentional life force.
Did you receive my first post of the year? It was empty and that was no mistake. Your life is like this - there is nothing - until you create it.
Are you ready for conscious creation yet? I hope so. We are here at Focusing Inward! Let's dream our lives into being with a collective energy that says Yes! to our deepest desires.