How to Create Mindful Moments by Pixie Hamilton

One of my “happy places” is high above the James River in Hollywood Cemetery.

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    In this cemetery I am mindful. I allow Spirit to gently guide me. Like the river below me, I easily connect with my creative flow and loving Source.

In this cemetery I am mindful. I allow Spirit to gently guide me. Like the river below me, I easily connect with my creative flow and loving Source.

The views are undoubtedly one of the best kept secret in Richmond, Virginia (I say this because there are many more people wandering below at Belle Isle :))

The tombstones are majestic, inspirational, and even humorous, such as (no fabrication here) “She did the best she could.”  (By the way, I have found that engraving twice!)

In this cemetery I am at peace and connected to a larger presence within myself and around me. I am mindful. I allow Spirit to gently guide me. Like the river below me, I easily connect with my creative flow and loving Source. I am open to feeling vulnerable and to unleash my authentic self. I find joy in exploring my hearts desires, even those that may seem edgy or scary at first.

I am never the same person when I leave.

On August 18, 2015, I also left with some journaling, inspired by the peace and co-spirits around me.

What I now better understand is that life isn’t so complicated after all. Life can (and should) be a simple, joyful, loving journey—built on one mindful moment at a time.

What if?

Yes. What if?

We simply approached every moment of every day mindfully—first by paying attention, setting our intention, and then allowing “it” to happen – knowing in the end, that we are grateful?

Here are five simple steps in what I now understand as “Mindful Moments”:

·       “Watch.” Pay attention. Step back. Observe, with no judgment, no control, no intrusion.

·       “Tune in.” Feel your emotion. How does “whatever is going on around you” make you feel? Do you feel inspired? Awesome!  That inspiration comes from your inner guidance system – your Source of wisdom, goodness, and love—your Core sense of “who you really are.”

Do you feel scared, fear, resistance, or apprehension? Awesome! You now know you are out of alignment with what you—your inner Source—your true self—really wants.

·       “Ask .” Set your intention based on what you feel. If you are inspired, SAY YES! And ask and allow it to come into your life. Only ask once – with conviction - knowing with utmost faith that Universal abundance, truth, wisdom, life, and love are all around you to make it happen.

·       “Allow .” "The right people and experiences will appear. Just watch. If you are feeling fear, PAUSE! Do nothing! Except ask and allow Universal guidance to lead you to something different (more) for your higher good.

·       “Appreciate.” Be grateful for the moment (or experience) and know that all is well. Let your heart flow with grace and gratitude for the inspiration that will push you forward to “who you really are” and your ultimate purpose for being.

Similarly, be grateful for the contrasting experiences that let you know what you don’t want. The good news is that you can’t feel grateful and experience fear and resistance at the same time!!!

Simple, right? Let’s all let our life be a simple, joyful, loving journey—built on one mindful moment at a time.

Mindful Moments with Pixie Hamilton

What exactly are You agreeing to?

Many years ago I was not a happy person. There was much about my life that was good, but inside I was not relaxed and comfortable. I was anything but peaceful. I had been agreeing to a life that was not about the real me.

People mistakenly believe that it’s luck or good fortune that brings about feeling good inside. I think inner peace comes through consistent, repetitive action.

As I seriously consider my “happy” inner life, I realize that I have made some agreements about how I will conduct myself. These are active steps bring about the “good” life I enjoy today.

I have 10 agreements - that I have made and that I keep - for living a peaceful inner life.

My agreements are ~


This is how I maintain the agreements.

When I hear my voice, out loud or in my mind, being self-critical, I replace my words with words of love and kindness. When I hear my voice, out loud or in my mind, being judgmental, to anyone or anything, I am quiet and focus on my breath.

My feelings and thoughts have guidance for me and I know how to work with these vital energies masterfully. When I feel stuck, I commit to discovering the old belief or pattern that is out of alignment with who I truly am and I shed it.

I devote a chosen amount of time daily to sit in silence and listen inwardly.

I break the cultural pattern of making what I do the definition of who I am. Instead I focus on having my actions express who I am at my essence.

I choose those who I place in my inner circle as people who offer me honesty and encouragement to grow into my full potential. I know my values that relate to my highest potential and promote these values through my self-expression.

Knowing that life is a process and everything is connected, I release attachment to controlling any outcomes. Instead I immerse myself in living in the present moment and being fully alive and awake to all that is within and around me. 

All of these are habitual patterns that I created to lead my life. I had to replace self-defeating patterns with these new ones to enjoy the life I have today.

Here is a PDF so that you can download the agreements  ~ 

We live in a world that continues to cultivate behaviors that create more anxiety and more fear. You have to make a big commitment and step outside the general flow to create an empowered and joyful way of living.  

I’d love to hear which agreements seem the most important to you. Post a comment and let’s support each other to create more peace and less fear. 

Are you at War?

I tiptoe through the house shortly after 4 am. I put on the teakettle, straighten the kitchen a bit, start the dishwasher. Remembering last night and falling sound asleep on the couch then making my way quickly into bed, I consider the disregard for a tidy kitchen upon awakening. Sometimes you let go. The body tells you to. I take my tea into my meditation space and sit. Such gratitude floods me as I realize I can sit today without the pulling fatigue of my body, without the deep desire to just lay down. Enjoying the next half hour, I simply am aware of the difference of feeling a sense of wellness within. Prayers of thankfulness arise.


Work calls me forth. Three days of letting it go, being mostly still and resting. Taking care of my body with regret and inner resistance. I see it more clearly now and I am sad.

I walk to the kitchen and refill the mug. I step onto the deck and feel the lingering warmth of the night, before the cold front comes in later. The early rain begins, light drops fall and I lift my face to the sky to feel them, to welcome the renewing water that falls toward me. Tears spring forth, and I want to forgive myself.

  • I forgive myself for becoming impatient and judgey as soon as I feel unwell.
  • I forgive myself for wanting antibiotics so that I can feel better in a snap and get on with my work and feelings of productivity.
  • I forgive myself for still having an inner critic that wants me to be well, all day every day.
  • I forgive myself for not appreciating all that my body does for me, every day – I breathe, I release, I walk and talk, I hug and write, I sleep and eat, the opportunity to feel love.
  • I forgive myself for feeling such disappointment at losing days of accomplishing effort toward my goals.
  • I forgive myself for not readily allowing the need my body has right now to restore its balance, to regain an alignment, perhaps growing in ways I cannot understand.
  • I forgive myself for still working with these old patterns that work hard at holding on and not allowing a more consistent peace within.

The war is over. Peace descends and I am grateful. This is the practice of learning how to end a war from within. Peace is a practice, often of deep forgiving.

What are you at war with inside? I’d love to hear your challenges. I hope you are inspired to forgive today. What needs forgiving?

Acceptance = Peace by Kelly McCoy

michael-suit-1A few months ago, I came across an article about Actor Michael J. Fox (Back to the Future, Family Ties, Spin City). In it, he talked about his family, his new television series and his challenges with Parkinson's disease. His story was funny, scary and inspiring. I walked away unable to stop thinking about one of his comments. When asked what he has learned from his disease, he said that he has recognized that his happiness increases in direct proportion to his acceptance and his happiness decreases in direct proportion to his expectations. Read those two sentences a few times and let them sink in. Happiness decreases in direct proportion to expectation.

Happiness increases in direct proportion to acceptance.

I found these thoughts about acceptance, expectation and happiness fascinating and started trying them on for size in my own life. Does this mean anything to me? Is that how it works in my life? As I examined my responses to life I found that when I expect something and it doesn't happen, there is disappointment or stress or anxiety. When I accept whatever comes along, whether it meets my expectation or not, I feel calmer, less stressed, peace.

Michael's magazine revelation seems so simple, yet so profound. It has become a private litmus test for me in many situations. When I expect a client to like a draft of an ad, a letter or a brochure that I've created, their reaction holds power over me. If they don't like it, I often feel defensive, insecure, even guilty, that I was unable to give them what they wanted. Yet, when I enter the same meeting consciously, knowing why I have made the creative choices I have and leave myself open - and accepting - of whatever their reaction is, I feel less stress. If they aren't happy with what they see or read, I am open to the comments and ask questions about how we can better meet their requirements. If they love what they see, all the better.

I am continuously reminding myself that it's not all up to me. Every human interaction is just that, a relationship, a collaboration. I should not EXPECT to have it all right all the time in the eyes of another. I can ACCEPT that things are not always what I EXPECT them to be. This makes everything okay. We're all just doing what we think is best at the time. Perhaps there's another way to look at the situation or challenge and reach a peaceful solution in which both parties reach acceptance - and feel good about - the outcome.


This is wrapped up in the concept of not taking things personally. It's not all about me. However, for those of us who were raised to BE RESPONSIBLE, this can be a challenge. When I enter into a situation with my husband, one of my children, or a client, I feel responsible for the outcome. That feeling has been cultivated in me since my childhood and it's not easy to release. However, when I consider the honest intent of what my mother and father insisted on from the time I can remember, it was "be responsible for yourself." They never told me to be responsible for another person's happiness, reactions or feelings. They taught me to be kind, to finish my homework, to clean up my room. In hindsight, I understand that these simple things were designed to keep my own life moving forward in a positive way.

When I really consider the intent...they were saying, "Always do your personal best so that you can be comfortable in any situation." The key is to be comfortable with yourself, not to be right in the eyes of anyone else. If you are comfortable inside your own skin, then it is much easier to ACCEPT whatever comes your way. If you know you have done everything you, let go, accept. This lack of tension and anxiety is a magical thing.

peaceThe only place that I differ with Michael is in the word "happiness." In examining his words of wisdom, I prefer to insert the word "peace." I am more peaceful when I accept what comes along and less peaceful when I expect anything. I find that to be less qualitative than "happiness," which I've been somehow trained to think is a good thing. Peace, for me, is simply a state of being in which you experience less conflict and less struggle. Peace is possible when acceptance happens and expectation ceases. What a powerful thought and lovely way to be.

So, in the future, perhaps I can sit with Michael J. Fox to tell him how much his words impacted me and to debate semantics on this. I will never expect this to happen, however if the opportunity presents itself, I will definitely accept.

Be well and revel in the peace you can create for yourself each moment of the day.