authentic power

Vulnerability as a Path to Power

When you are unable to withstand feeling vulnerable you lose your inner power. When you suddenly feel vulnerable, this is great opportunity to grow into your most powerful and compassionate self. It's so difficult to remain steady in the face of feeling vulnerable, so this is not necessarily an easy path to tread. Here are effective steps to take to turn your vulnerability into one of your most powerful assets. Step 1. First become proficient at knowing and owning when you feel vulnerable. This might seem basic but it's an integral and empowering first step. When you feel vulnerable the instinct to protect takes over. This might arise as a withdrawal, an automatic move into a place/space that feels less weak (like getting angry), or shutting down energetically and emotionally. Notice what your automatic habits are and then learn to stop the habitual response. Instead still yourself inwardly and outwardly. Be still, be present and inwardly confirm - I feel vulnerable right now. This is an enormous first step.  Not having to move away from the feeling of vulnerability is the brave path.

Step 2. Notice your vulnerability story. What's your history that caused this kind of "thing" to bring up vulnerability for you? Let me give an example. When I am in any situation in which it can seem as if someone is rejecting me, I feel vulnerable. This will show up as me moving away from the situation as quickly as possible - to withdraw, to disappear. I've had to learn to stay still, to feel the feeling of "inner shrinking" and to just let it be, without it necessarily being about "rejection". Instead I make efforts to be aware that it is just as much about whatever is happening with the other person or the general situation.  I've learned to remind myself this is not about me, but simply about whether I really want my voice to be heard. I've had to learn to assert myself well when it doesn't come naturally to me. Sometimes I do speak up, and sometimes I don't care all that much. I've grown support circles in which I am heard regularly and valued. I don't feel rejected by those I love and who love me well. It's just not about that anymore - that's my new story. And that's the story I now hear, instead of the old rejection story that had to do with other's not caring about or wanting me.


Step 3. Let your vulnerability remind you of everyone's vulnerability, growing your compassion for the human race. As humans, each one of us is vulnerable and experiences weakening feelings. Observing your vulnerability and seeing your automatic protection methods gives you a chance to hold the truth that everyone has these feelings and can be in automatic protection mode. How sad that we adopt these patterns and habits in which we can't simply be our true selves naturally and comfortably! Let your vulnerability allow  you to grow your compassion for others who unconsciously mask themselves, turn on the offense or shut down in the many ways we do, to attempt to feel safe. Let your compassion be the ruling force inwardly.

Step 4. Learn how to create safety from within so that the outer environment is less important. When you know how to care for yourself and allow your vulnerability compassionately, non-judgmentally and lovingly, the outer environment is less important. You can become the guide to help others learn how to treat you well. When you no longer judge yourself, you will not want others judging you, in fact you will not want it in your life at all. When you treat yourself lovingly, you will want more loving and kind interactions with others as you become proficient at offering and accepting love.

Step 5. Embrace your vulnerability. When we forget that we are all vulnerable, we can develop unpleasant habits to be around. These can show up as behaviors and attitudes that state - I am stronger, greater, infallible and untouchable. Without knowing it, we often send signals that others are repelled by when we think we are making ourselves more attractive. Inauthentic behaviors and attitudes are acknowledged energetically by others even if they aren't acknowledged openly and consciously. These dynamics set us up to enter into conflicted relationships and experiences right from the beginning.

Embracing your vulnerability is authentically empowering and gracious, the most loving and kind expression of acceptance you can offer yourself. For those wanting a life of fulfillment and authenticity, it's a path with immense potential!

Re-Newing Your Power Consistently Part II

Last post I focused on transitioning - how you can re-center consciously within yourself following a transition with renewed wisdom and empowerment. You can read Part I here. Now let's go deeper with this idea :) Birth and death are the major life transitions, the entry and exit points of our lives. It seems we come into the world semi-conscious, evolving into more consciousness, and then we release our consciousness at death. I have come to believe that the process can take a different path than this. This discovery has come through personal experience.

Waking up after birth means slowly growing your capabilities to fully inhabit and utilize the resources with which you have been blessed. By adulthood (around 21), it is assumed that we are mostly awake and grown. How wrong that idea is. Awakening to Self and growing fully is a lifetime journey. The physical part peaks at some point, but the spiritual part goes on endlessly. Many sleep-walk through the spiritual part.

I feel like my waking up and growing didn't begin until the age of thirty. It's as if I was on some automatic pilot until then, semi-conscious and unable to really sit in the pilot's seat of my human machinery. I felt like I had made a bit of a mess in my life in some important ways and it took me time and attention to wake up enough to undo the chaos I had created and re-center myself in a more meaningful and authentic life.

My daily practice of meditation, of sitting still with myself, continuously affords me the opportunity to re-center in the deepest sense of Self. It connects me to a resource within that has informed me of my true personal power. It has called me out on the ways I have misused that power. The inner voice of wisdom has forgiven me and acknowledged my growth so that I act differently today, embodying the wisdom of a life lived with imperfection. It has deepen my connection to life in ways that serve me everyday. I renew my power and re-center in that deep connection to Source energy daily.

Daily meditation practice allows me to find relief from the fear of death. I welcome the opportunity to experience what will happen at that major transition time. Through meditation, I know that my consciousness has power beyond the ordinary thinking and experiencing of daily life. This direct experience through meditation reminds me that I am more that this body that carries me about and houses my soul. It shows me that my awakening presence - when activated with my consciousness in the now, realizing I have the power to create my life quality through aware choice -  is what creates my life of meaning. Now that is authentic power.

Practicing for the last big transition is a great gift of meditation. The renewal of authentic power through daily centering in Self refreshes in ways inexplicable until directly experienced. I invite you to have your own experience :) I am here to help you.